Am I a big hypocrite?

17 Oct

When I was in college, Facebook became the rage. Now there’s myspace too and a bunch of other social networks like Friendster and what-have-you. But back in 2005 and 2006, Facebook was the top dawg.

Almost all of my friends had it. They had their profiles and their friends and spent hours and hours of time on Facebook, reading about other people’s lives without actually talking to them at all. It was possible to know everything about a person–what they did every day, what bands they liked, who they were dating, etc–without actually ever talking to them!

I have yet to meet a person (besides my husband) who has a Facebook account and hasn’t gotten sucked in to spending hours a day on it. Plenty of my close friends in college even admitted to the fact that Facebook was/is addicting.

Which is why I steered clear of Facebook and all its social network relatives. I never signed up for it, despite the fact that many people pressured me to join. “You should get Facebook,” they’d say. “Um, how about you just call and talk to me to find out what I’m up to? Unless you really don’t care about ME, you care about seeing what I’m DOING…which would just be weird.” 

To be honest, I’m still kind of proud of the fact that I’ve never had a Facebook page. People of my kind are few and far between. Seems like everyone and their grandma has fallen prey to the social networking phenomenon.


So I have found recently that many of my good friends from back home have started blogs. This is so excited for me, as a member of the blogging world as well. I love reading about what my old friends are up to and the struggles/joys they’re going through. It’s fun seeing pictures of them, their family, and their activities.

As I was pondering this after finding my friend Katie‘s blog today, it hit me: am I now a Facebooker without having Facebook? The whole reason why I despised Facebook (and sinfully/playfully felt myself superior to those who had it) was because of the “Look at me, look at me” and peeping tom-NESS. But now, I am reading about people’s lives and not calling them. What’s happening to me?!?!?!?

I could defend myself by saying I only read my friends-in-real-life’s blogs… But I don’t.

I could defend myself by saying I actually talk to the people whose blogs I read… But I don’t.

But I can defend myself by saying that I don’t know what their favorite bands are or what their favorite life quote is. And no one can poke me or write on my wall in my blog!!

Although, they can comment on my posts…

What do you think? Is blogging like Facebook, in that I am being a sorta-kinda-peeping tom?

2 Responses to “Am I a big hypocrite?”

  1. Leah October 17, 2008 at 4:26 pm #

    I’m sorry my dear, but yes, blogging is like facebook. In the way that you wanted to avoid . . .but it’s different if you’re aware of the downfall.

    For that reason I’ve kept my blog “secret” from my real life friends. I’ve heard my blogging buddies lament the lack of communication from those that they have shared their blog with and I want to avoid that. Additionally, while I know I’m truly writing from my heart it allows me the ability to truly lay it all out there without fear . . . sorry that’s my own tangent.

  2. aprilkatiejane October 18, 2008 at 11:09 pm #

    Hi Kathy!! Thanks for your comments to me!! Now that I have come out of the closet with my blog, I hear you…the whole blogging network, which I didn’t know was so popular sort of like facebook! This is what makes me think blogging is different. On facebook, people look at pictures and read about people’s interests and plan social events and invite people. Blogging is a place where people can reach an audience through writing about what they care about- its like a free gift to be able to come online and read about someone else’s perspective and life experiences. There is a depth to blogging that I just don’t see on facebook. Your blog has personally ministered to me a lot, as I have been reading through what God is teaching you…. especially your experiences with marriage. And writing is a gift God has truly blessed you with, and you are using it! There may be overlaps in the facebook and blogging networks, but I vote that you aren’t going against your anti-facebook values. p.s. This blog made me laugh!


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